Wedlock vistas….

1:00am at nite, a girl comes out of the Delhi airport, two guys walk towards her, snatch bags from her, put them in the car. Ask the girl to get inside the car, two more guys are sitting inside the car, with music system on great volume in the car. This is how I was received on Delhi Airport by my brother & cousins on Thursday at midnight, when my flight got delayed by 2hrs that day. A cool drive to home with some excellent music played. On the lower floor everyone was sleeping, so five of us went on the upper floor. My cousin made tea for all of us & v kept chatting till 4am in the morning. Then, we dispersed to sleep for few hours.

Morning there were thread ceremony for my two cousins & evening there was dance party which started around 7pm & went on till 1:30am in the morning at home.
Next morning there was 'Haldi ceremony' for the cousin getting married in which they apply oil & turmeric, and in the evening was baaraat. The bridegroom i.e. my cousin :-D was looking great in that especially tailored Sherwani. We danced so much in the baaraat, on the whole way, wid my cousin sitting on the horse. It was simply awesome.

I went out wid my cousin in the car to drop @2am some of our relatives , enjoyed a nice drive with him on the roads of Delhi at night. It was full-time fun & enjoyment in the whole trip. :-)
Took a flight to Bangalore on Monday morning & came directly to office. :-(

For those of you who read my previous posts & thinking about my sweet friend, he has decided to marry that girl from the matrimonial site & he is going to get engaged very soon. I wish them great life ahead :-)

BTW, my close friend Abi is gonna get married too on Feb 19th & we all are planning to attend it in Chennai. Wishing the couple a splendid future…:-)

ps: I talked abt three couples in my post, do I hear more wedding bells ringing around? ;-)

Weekend roller-coaster....

Friday, 13th Jan'2006
Mixed feelings….
Its 1:24am at nite, the day has changed as my calendar shows Saturday :-)The post starts with a question for u guys :-) What can be the one of the most perfect options to spend Friday evening…? Sm of u wil say going on date….Wat can u do if u don’t hav smone like that? Or, if u r married? ;-)
C if u r married, u can make evryday like ur first date, its all in ur hands ;-)
Tricky if u dnt hav anyone like that. The best option is to sit in a cosy blanket in dim light near smone (friend, family...) u love, & watch a movie…Undoubtedly, this can be an excellent options for married couples too… :-D
So, I watched 'Red Eye' wid my roomie…an excellent thriller, u hav to bear just initial boring 10mins…then evrything is superb….the movie moves pretty fast & shows what a female can do for smone she cares…I think I heard sm of u talking a little earlier abt taking smthing to munch…ok…u can take popcorn or chips ;-)…If u r thinking wat did I eat…I dint eat anything….I fasted today also…So, its just three days...as I m still waiting for smone to realize the depth of my thots…
I m a lively person who tries to take away tears & brings smiles for others…I wanna b like that always…so Thur. nite I thot that on Fri evn if I m down, I wil make ppl laugh…the way I do in my lab, at home…I made my dad & sis laugh over the phn…then made Neethu enjoy her day by playing 'Text twist' with her for smtime in lab…he was arnd how I wished he came & be with us & enjoy...that time the two little buddies of my team Abhishek & Ranjan were hanging out there to pull our leg…so I teased them also…these two sweet chaps…Btech grads, younger to me in age & quite naughty. In morning happened to talk to one old buddy, Siddarth…he was with me in 11th & 12th…haven't met him since 12th...he luvs one of her juniors since college, & has now told his parents that he will marry her or none? He was telling there was a gr8 hungama in his house due to inter-caste…but he believes in her luv for him & he is sure parents want kids to be happy & will agree to it…he said, 'v can't go & marry smone just like that…its gud to marry smone who understands u as u r…than to make smone understand wat u r?'. Hats off Sid. :-)
He is extremely opposite to my other friend who is a totally confused personality…she was with me in eng. College…a guy proposed her…a decent & devoted guy…they went arnd for 2 yrs & after that she broke off wid him saying…I never saw u like that…damn it…wat was she doing wid him for 2 yrs…today also both of them r not married & she repents she is still confused that probably she won't find smone who loves her so much unconditionally…then also she doesn't want to go & tell him this...:-(
R ppl nuts…? how can they let go smone who luvs them & wants to marry without condition & in case they do this mistake, why do they feel wid ego that person won’t agree if they call? If the person, luvs u really they shud not put conditions for marriage, accepting U as U R...they will luv u the same or may be more since now u luv them too…Hav heard that Happy Marital life takes birth when egos of two ppl die & they think they r one…;-)

Anyway, friday was gr8 bcoz I saw my friend laughing wid others atleast if not wid me…so atleast he is happy…which matters a lot to me...I m confused as he dint respond directly to me today also…I happened to talk to him but it was formal & dint knew wat was the intent…but that sweet smile which I like was there once...I felt like telling him, plz don’t talk to me just bcoz u think v can b friends again. Talk to me iff U feel the same,else there is no point in formalities…I was puzzled so the fasting continues over the weekend :-) .
But, let me tel u this friend of mine is bold & smart, I know he lives in present not in past & that if he really feels that this girl luvs him truly, he won’t compromise on such an important aspect of his life...its his turn to act, give her a call & take her for coffee & talk…how long can he give her reasons like I don’t have feelings for u even wen he has, my parents won't agree wen it’s the girl who has to take up change in culture always...Ppl say v don't find true love, but wen it comes v don’t accept it…that too a girl coming boldly & telling means u can be assured for an honest & romantic spouse for ur life...Be a Man my friend……only thing which lasts is luv…Luv which probably can't b quantified & only be seen in the shine of the person's eyes when v smile at them….
But who will make him understand…I CANT. He is not talking to me, so that I can let him knw :-( Probably my fasting will help & God will let him feel on his own. Hope he takes a paper & writes wats happening in his life & wat he wants or talk to a sensible male friend & discuss all this, I hope this idiot comes out of confusion & takes sm initiative…I guess wat he cud hav known abt her in 2-3 meetings or email exchanges.

I feel everyone poses nice wen it comes to arranged marriage, bcoz why will u act bad to a stranger met on website? Has he acted bad to that girl, that she will? Or, is he just another fool who fell flat seeing her looks. If that's the case I wanna pat his back & say nice to meet one more fool, go ahead. All the best :-) But I can't comment…may be the girl who saw on site is much better than the girl who proposed him…only he can compare both…I only know one thing that probably she doesn't luv him…if he thinks he can spend his life better with smone whom he thinks he luvs than wid a girl who is sure that she luvs him…he better make a right choice…he has sensible outlook & won't marry smone ignoring a girl who luvs him badly, smiles for him, cries for him & can do anything for him. He is not the one who will let her go & regret later that sm girl went out of the way breaking rules of society & proposed him & he was busy thinking abt smone else & dint had courage to accept her in his life…
..I m going Delhi on Thurs…hope he gets to know his feelings for her before I go…so that I can enjoy marriage with a free mind ;-)
Its 2:50am, I will sleep now…

Saturday, 14th Jan 2006
Whatz the best start of day?? ;-) Wakeup call from sm u luv,like I got frm dad in the morning! If u dint get any frm sm1 who boasts he/she luvs u, u giv it to sm1, I wil tel u a secret, it really works ;-) If u dnt knw wat to talk, start wid talking abt studies if u r in same college, start wid work if u r in same office & then u shud knw wat to talk…its between u & that person, I m not giving a class here :-D

Sent sms to ppl I like, to wish them 'Happy Makar Sankranti' in the morning!! Kavya in my office was the first one to respond back…

Papa has back-pain problem, today morning wen I talked to him he was ok, smthing made me call him up again in 2hrs…& he said he got a bad cramp while he bended while watering plants in the garden. He is a versatile person, a self-made man, good at work, superb humor, excellent knowledge abt share market, luvs gardening, cares for family, helps mom wid her chores. Only complete man I hav seen. He tries to giv all comforts to us even wen ours is a service class family. Always motivated us to study & make our own identity. After my engg. wen I wanted to go for masters he backed me up. Then I said to him - Papa u hav supported me a lot til now, but I will like to take education loan for my M.Tech. & that’s wat I did…

Current song "Pehla nasha..." such a romantic song, really gives goosebumps. :-)

Went to forum today wid Neethu, had to buy a gift for my cousin as I m going Delhi & haven't met him since I got job. So, bought a white T-shirt, hope he will like it. Neethu bought a kurta for her hubby Vivek.
I had gone to forum on 31st morning to buy New year gifts for family. I had bought a TITAN watch for smone who is not talking to me these days, its one of the most expensive gifts I hav bought for smone who is so close to heart that I think he is a part of family, Even if he thinks he is not….I m sure I will give it to him as I bought it keeping his personality & style in mind & I wont giv it to anyone else…
But this idiot is not bothered abt me at all, I bet he wudnt hav read my last mail, Ppl fast for kids, husband, family & I m fasting for eight days like my navratri fast for the idiot who doesn't cares. My friend said that does he deserves so much affection of urs. I said, "He is a nice person & YA this buddhu does."
He doesn't replies to any of my sms, but I felt top of the world wen I got his sms to wish me Sankranti in eveng. I replied him but he never replied back to that sms. I think he wud hav sent it to me by mistake or wud have done a send all…& I uselessly felt happy…:-(
It was full moon night today, excellent scene thru the trees, I was lost thinking abt wat will happen, will that idiot understand me & talk to me again…

Arey yaar, I m not going to get anything in this…Why am I fasting & doing tapsaya for this idiot who is not talking to me? For him all fasting that girl on website shud do, bcoz she luvs him or probably he shud do it for her as he luvs her?
I shud do it for smone who loves me, right? ;-)
I think if he really cares he won't snub & he will like girl who is so sure abt her feelings abt him, before her parents search a nice guy in few days & she can’t deny... ;-)

Sunday, 15th Jan 2006
Its Sunday 2:45pm, had a nice time last week this time…!!
Ciao
ps: Nxt post specially dedicated to Virgo gals under-construction…watch it ;-)

Mindless musings...

Stood for quite smtime in balcony today evening, it was pleasing weather outside. Mom-dad told me it was 0.5°C in Agra yest. Dad seemed to be very happy over the phone, as he had shown my horoscope to two astrologers recently (Parents being happy abt horoscope shows that URS truly is in gr8 danger ahead & can't escape for more time… :-( ), & it seems both of them told that I have two 'Raj Yogas' (lucky charm) in my horoscope . It seems one of the astrologer is a very old professor, & doesn’t even take money. Wen looking in my horoscope, he said- "Excellent girl! She is very understanding & has nice conduct & will maintain peace & harmony wherever she will go & bcoz of her, the life-partner will have great fortune. She has one raj-yoga for herself & one for her would be. Whose daughter she is? ". My dad was telling he smiled back at him & said that she is my daughter only…

So, URS truly is an astrologer certified nice person...... ;-)

Anyway, its marriage season is in air, as evn I will attend my cousin's on 21st Jan in Delhi. Then one of my close friends 'Abi' is gonna get married on 19th Feb. I feel marriage only requires devotion of a person to the relation. There are no questions in marriage. Selfless & unconditional love offered is the only recipe for making it work…Two minds shud have the chemistry to share their thots & express themselves freely as friends…They may hav different tastes but shud b ready to appreciate other's…the partner shud like U as U R at present & shud not try to change U while U R trying to know each other, by saying U - "Look V require more maturity in marriage…U shud grow up, U shud act like this, U shud behave like this…". Then its not meeting of minds its compromise…meeting of minds happens wen the other person just walks up to u, after looking at wat U R at present & not wat U can b & says…"I like U & I think V can be together for our lives, what do u think?" ;-)
While standing in balcony in evening, I was humming the song "Ruth na jaana tumse kahoon to, main in ankhon mein jo rahoon to…(Don’t get annoyed if I tell u that I wanna live in ur eyes forever...)"
Feel like someone shud play sm light musical chords on guitar, & I shud keep listening to it till morning…Its 2:01am now…I think I shud lie down so that get to sleep in smtime…Hav to go to office also.
Ciao
ps: Wen I get up in morning my hand first goes on my Radio & then to pick up the phone to call up mom-dad. Today the day started with the song "Dil hai ki manta nahin…Yeh bekarari kyun ho rahi hai yeh jantaa hee nahi..." & "Lagan laagi tumse mann ki lagan...". Superb lyrics, hear them & u fall in love wid them... Wat a brilliant start of the day...It reminds me how dad (the most perfect man I have seen in my life…) used to play some nice & loud music on the music system in the morning wen I dint used to get up till late…!! :-)

Lunch with a friend….

Was at home on Saturday. Got up late, called up a friend. Then had a pretty long conversation with dad-mom. Made some excellent fried rice in the afternoon for lunch.
Went out with my roomie in the evening for sometime. Some nice numbers were coming on Radio City, so danced for sometime on that. Saturday was spent for a change very plain, with looking forward to meeting my friend on Sunday.
Vintage 91 is currently there on radio city, all retro english numbers are coming. 'Baby I love u to want me the way that I want u', then Elvis Presley's 'Now or Never' & 'The only thing which looks good on me is u' were some of the nice ones…

Today that’s Sunday I had invited my friend for lunch to Bombay Post. I was on time, & he was just half an hour late like most of the guys I have seen since childhood. I have read throughout in co-ed & this trait is so common to most of the guys, so it was much expected from him. Only thing different that never happened earlier to me was I had to wait alone, as we don’t have any common friends who could have been with me waiting there. But, the weather was nice so I dint mind waiting for him, humming some songs. :-)

This friend of mine is special & quite close to my heart. He is looking for a life-partner. Has been going around with a girl thru some matrimonial site & has been talking to her over the phone & email exchange. He is a very sweet person, nice at heart, a little lazy, quite creative & adventurous. He was telling how he surprised his married friends by calling them at his home & arranging some games for them, it reminded me how I had given party to my mom-dad on 25th anniversary.

I made invitation cards with hand & went personally to invite all their friends for the party two days before so that they don’t get to know. On the day of the anniversary, early in the morning, I told my dad to go & receive my granny from the bus-stand as she & all my cousins were coming for his anniversary. I left a gold ring for mom in the kitchen, on top of the tea saucepan, the place where she goes first in the morning to make tea for dad. Then had left cell-phone for dad in the back seat of the car. Went to leave the gift in car parked in the garage at midnight after they had slept after receiving all the calls from relatives. All his friends were told not to tell or ask anything about the party in the evening. When dad went to pick up my granny, I dialed his cellno from landline & gave the phone to mom. Mom was asking whom u want me to talk & I said u just say hello u will know ;-). All this was early in the morning at 6:30am. When he came back home, he told me that he was standing outside the car, waiting for bus to arrive when he heard something ringing, then he turned back he realized that sound is coming from his own car. He was surprised as this was his first cell-phone. When he returned, I gave both of them greeting along with that was the same invitation card which we had given to others. At first he thot, we are taking mom & him for dinner outside, but when he read it again he asked- Is it an invitation for some party u guys r throwing? I said, Ya, it’s a small party I have organized in the hotel where all your friends r coming. Its all part of the small surprise I always wanted to give u for your 25th anniv. since childhood and its all I can do from my first three months salary after B.Tech.
I had always given them small gifts from my savings, or decorated the whole house while they were sleeping at night or when they went to temple during the daytime, or brought the cake by going silently on my bicycle with my sis to the market. But this time it was different, I had never seen my dad crying with emotions, he said "How u spent every penny u earned till now, just like that?". My granny told him, he shud not cry as these are her feelings for u & u should appreciate wat she has done. I feel u only need that passion for giving everything for smone u love, than expecting anything but love from them in return.

Anyway I was talking about the friend of mine. He makes collage & is creative like me, as my own house is so full of all the handicrafts items I have made ;-)
I feel sometimes it takes months for someone to come closer & sometimes u just get to know the person in few days. How well we will be with that person depends on how quickly we came closer & how easily we share our thots.
Me & my friend were talking in general, he asked me about my likes for music. We both have extremely different taste, he loves hard rock & I prefer slow & meaningful hindi songs & english numbers from Bryan Adams, Backstreet boys, MLTR, Eagles. But I think opposites attract, & that’s why v can be good friends. Like in my favorite movie Hum-tum, they say that if two people r opposite, they tend to fulfill what other person lacks.

He is a non-vegetarian, he was asking me if I eat non-veg., I said NO. So, we decided to go for a vegetarian order…

A small secret -> I left eating it long time back for my granny whom I love a lot. I know how to cook it, and I can eat it again for someone who loves me a lot & wants me to eat ;-).
Food habits, language, preference for music, movies, lifestyle, dressing sense all things are so petty. These things are not something we can’t pick up or change.

Back to my friend, he is looking for someone of his own caste, & is still making up his mind for that girl. I feel he is a little confused & looking for lots of other things when v should look only for the compatibility & how strongly the person feels for us. Probably he is still a cute kid who does not know girls can leave or pick up everything for someone who means more than anything in the world. So, I dedicate this post to his innocence…

Love is not love until v express it,
Care is not care until the person u care knows abt it,
Sharing is not sharing if u only share happiness & not pains,
Loving, caring & sharing is wat makes a marriage happen….

He told me that someone liked him recently & proposed him also but my cute friend said to her that he is committed to the girl he is looking from that site even when he has not made up his mind on her. He says that the girl from site he is considering now will be a love-cum-arranged marriage. But doesn’t knows if he was really in love with that girl he won’t think twice bcoz love never looks for reasons.
He says that his parents want him to marry someone of his own caste, he doesn't think that we never select our friends on the basis of caste in our life, even when v r so well-read & independent why v shud b scared abt smthing very mundane. Probably he is compromising on one of the most important things in life ;-)
He wore a bright white shirt & usually wears bright shades like white (which seems to be his fav), red, indigo, orange, & rarely seen him in black or dark blue which shows he is an optimist & looks towards positive side in life. :-) I can’t imagine why a person with such a positive attitude when given a chance doesn’t want to look & analyze a girl who came & proposed him as this happens once in million that a girl feels so strongly for a guy. Probably he never tried to imagine what any girl who loves someone with so much passion can do for someone in life…
Anyway he is a cute friend of mine & I respect his feelings. He is my friend & I don’t care what he thinks about that girl who came & proposed him…when he doesn't want to even silently try to know her through his own means as wat kind of person she is & doesn't want to check for his compatibility with her…I won’t force him to do so as I m a courteous person ;-) & I don’t want to loose a nice person as my friend just bcoz I want him to understand the intensity of some girl's feelings & her good nature…I value him as my friend & I always will…

I can only suggest him to go alone & watch Hum-tum again even if he has seen it once… Forgot to mention I can make much better food than Bombay Post, I bet…. ;-)
Ciao

On a Musical note...

It is 12am. Or shud I say its midnight. Today's it’s A.R.Rahman's b'day and Radio city has arranged for MID-NIGHT HUNGAMA. A three hour long program from 12 at midnight to 3am in the morning especially for AR's songs. A treat for any music lover. So, I hav decided to enjoy it and probably keep scribbling few things in between. Cool idea, isn't it??

I just got up, went up to the kitchen, made some hot-chocolate milk. So, its me in my cosy blanket in a cold night at Bangalore with hot-chocolate drink, AR Rahman's song playing at my bed-side, & me penning down this blog…super combo…
Just now the title track of Saathiya got over, & now 'Jiya Jale...', its simply rocking..!! :-)

Few minutes back, I was talking to my cousin over the phone, he is going to get married soon…& I m going home for that :-)…its an inter-caste marriage…he said to me its common yaar, the reason being - both the boy & girl r working these days and usually r away from their family. As both of them are well read & financially stable, they r above the boundaries of caste & prefer at this point smone who is compatible with them both at home & office. They want smone, with whom they can share their emotions, easily open up their heart & thots are shared at ease. They have all the right in the world to make their choices & select smone they like.

According to him in office its much easy to know sm1 as we spend 8-10hrs there and v can c the person in natural behavior, which is not possible in arranged marriages, just by meeting on weekends or talking over the phone. He said-if v don’t use this option, v r idiot. I was laughing at the way he was saying all this.
At last, he said that we shud marry smone who loves us not smone we love…now that was smthing superb & sensible frm him… ;-)
In between there were sm songs, last song was 'O humdum suniyo re….' & now its 'Dil hai chotta sa…' keep reading probably by the end of my blog, u will hav a nice playlist of AR's numbers :-)

I left frm office at 9:30pm today, had sm training from sm1 of our team in US till 7:30pm & then thot of finishing up one more online training which I had signed up…

Current song frm Swades, 'Yeh jo des hai tera...', the music of shehnai as the background score gives goose-bumps…its 1:00am in the morning…
For those of u who don’t knw, AR is probably going to give music for Lord of the rings...

I was lost in sm thots with songs at the back…& time passes fast with nice songs, the clock shows 2:00am now…they said temperature is 16 degrees outside… a cool nite really….

Sorry guys, can't complete the playlist, Sur has slept long back & I think I will also switch off the lites, lie down & enjoy the songs…last songs 'Udi, Udi,Udi…', 'Fanna….'….and now its 'Tanha Tanha yahan pe Jina, Yeh koi baat hai…, and 'Nahin samne yeh alag baat hai..' two of my all-time AR favorites….

….mesmerizing music…almost dancing…sleep is smwhere far away...
Ciao

New year unfolds….

I wanna write after long time…had been terribly busy since I have returned from home after diwali. Some issues at work one after another stopped me from writing. :-(

Today I thot why not go back home, take sometime away from work & scribble something. So here I am, with my latest post. Sorry to all the readers who came & left the blog finding it without updates…

First, things first… A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR to all of u out there. Hope u all enjoyed new year eve…Isn’t it?
Even I enjoyed it in my own way, at my friend's place. Altho I wasn't well, but its ok. New year has come up with more surprises, old friends getting closer, more ppl surrounding & knowing us…everything is gr8..!!

I'm going Delhi in Jan, one of my close cousins is getting married…it will be so much fun there…I have missed so many marriages being at IIIT-B that I don’t wanna miss this one…from now itself all my cousins are calling up & asking me abt my plans…one more thing which is gonna be exciting is…I will be witnessing the acute winters in North India after long…still remember when we used to dress up with blazers, scarfs, gloves & go to school…& that morning assembly when all of us will appear as if we are smoking when saying prayers. It was all fundoo…but ya at times we really prayed that God something happens & the assembly gets cancelled… :-)

There have been many things in between since I blogged…life has taken various turns…but its nice…life is the way we live it & wen we decide to enjoy it…we will surely…
Have got some very good frnds at office, Radhika was no doubt there as always wid me…have found a few more…Neethu, Ranjan, Vasuki, Anitha are some who are really nice…The critical issues which bossed over my mind from last few days have bonded me with many other in my team also….

For the blog-readers who love reading books, I finished recently "A Monk who sold his Safari" "One night @ call-center" & then "Not a penny more, Not a penny less". Keeping "One night @ call-center" (for which I was uselessly excited in my previous post) aside, the other two books were simply great…if you haven't read any of them go ahead & read them. Jeffrey Archer at his best in "Not a penny more, not a penny less" and Robin Sharma quite inspiring in "The Monk who sold his ferrari". One achievement in 2005 for which I can definitely praise myself was re-initiating my reading habit…
One the thing I wanna do in near future is painting…Kamyaa & Sur gifted glass colors to me on my b'day…have to make some use of it, rite?

At this time Radio city is playing near me & its 1:30am at nite…& as always I m enjoying writing… I think I shud shut up here…if I have to go office tommorrow morning…
Will post this entry on blog as first thing in the morning.
Ciao